In case you hadn't noticed, I began to title my blog posts with songs. It's just clever. And I listen to lots of music. Generally I connect music with different times of my life.
I didn't realize how busy I was until I over extended myself again. Today, outside of my husband, I will have seen 3 friends. That's like 3 blog posts and I shouldn't do anymore this week right? Maybe I'll do less detail. I'd like to mention, if I didn't care about my boy having a nap today, it would have been 4 friends. All of whom are on facebook!
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| I chose this pic from Fb because she's holding one of my favorite shows |
This morning I was set to walk with my one friend Sarah. She's pregnant and has a young child. I refer to her as my soul mate. It's a little weird, I'll admit that but man we have ridiculous things in common. Our lives mimic each others so closely, if I didn't know any better I would have thought my father had another child!
When I met her I was immediately drawn to her. I could feel the warmth of her heart and she was so friendly and kind. She also looked pretty normal. She wore a tee shirt and jeans with a pair of green chucks. I too wore a pair of jeans with a tee shirt but I wore Vans. I hope you're forming a picture of this.
I'm not really sure how we got to talking but her son did come up and start conversation. He is a little younger than my son but even though the words from his mouth didn't make any sense, he was talking and had something to say.
At the same time I was about to ask her to coffee, she was sending me a note to come over for dinner on fb. We set it up. She sent me a pinterest recipe and I made a lemon meringue pie. I was happy that our husbands met. They are both very passive people but melded perfectly. They were just quiet and secretly becoming outgoing with one another as we ate. Dinner was good and the kids were doing ok but I was most happy to see that this little Christian family listened to music and owned vinyl and had shelves of books. If you knew me before I had a pretty extensive collection of vinyl. I lost a lot of it with my move with Erika from Texas to Chicago but I used to have a lot. I was a completest. I had to have the same album on every medium. I had to own everything. This is what I used to spend money on. Now I just bring home Sesame Street records that I pay a buck for at the thrift store. Anyway, it was a really nice evening.
From then on out I made it a point to kind of hang out a little more than just at play group with the kids. We set up a time to walk and we've been pretty much at it once a week since. I think we missed a week and I was like "What is this non-sense?" but we were just busy. Today it was raining early in the morning so we just hit up MCD's.
When we talked, before that one older gentleman was trying to hang out with us, she asked me how I was doing. She had read the blog. It was really nice to know that she read it considering she had just got in from out of town. She apologized for my loss and we talked about it a little but I kept making jokes about how she could refer to the blog to get more info. I was able to tell her that I was doing better but also share with her a little about the obituary. I saw Led's obit last night. It was sad and I am pissed off that they used such an old picture. I want to say, it was even a prom picture. Erika told me to accept it for what it was and that it was probably a matter them being unprepared. I guess it makes sense but I'm sure there were so many events that he went to where he was dressed up and looked happy in his later years. At least that is what I want to believe. Maybe this was the last time he was so put together but I don't want to think that about him and seeing that picture kind of made it feel like things were that way. 18, that was the last time he had is crap together.
Getting back to Sarah here, all in all, as always, it was a nice meeting, I like her. I genuinely do. She's just so normal. She's a smart woman with great parenting skills and is so loving with so much patience. She's got good values and amazing heart and is simultaneously flawed and human. She wants growth and reads like crazy and I'm very inspired by her. And she crochets... or knits. I forget. I think she knits (sorry). Anyway, I think I miss that part when I don't have a chance to meet new people. For so long I just hung around family. Sometimes it was my choice and sometimes it just worked out that way. I'm pretty limited with friends so finding new friends is appealing but also pretty scary. We have prayer group and I've decided to trust her with some hard issues I've had to work through pretty much on my own (well God and Rick too but you know what I mean)...no, I'm not going to tell you. I've received no judgment from her when I swear or pray or anything. And no, I don't actually swear in front of the kids, but I will mouth is around her and I don't feel judged by her. I've only ever received compassion and understanding from her and this is something I feel I lack in other parts of my life with other relationships. Sometimes it just can't be family because in all honesty, they do judge and they do know you and they always know what's best. Which can be a little annoying.
I don't mean to sound like I like her because of what she can give me, what I mean to say is our friendship works because she is awesome and for that, I can really appreciate her.
This is truly a friendship in real life. In fact, I hardly ever see her on fb.
Listening to The Zombies "Time of the Season". Peter Bjorn and John, Album: Writer's Block - Young Folks.
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